Ready to liberate yourself from stifling expectations and break free from the pursuit of perfection? You're in the right place!

Your journey from 'perfect' to authentic starts here.

hello dear,

About Me

You know deep down that perfectionism isn't real. But somehow, you keep getting caught in the lie that you aren't perfect enough.

This lie leads you to over work yourself, over produce, live up to your parents' dreams, never show much vulnerability or ask for help. Perfectionism is preventing you from taking risks, trying new things, and accepting yourself for who you are. All of these things are robbing you from your humanity and your life.

What if I told you that you:
  • would still be worthy and valuable if you weren't perfect
  •  are allowed to make mistakes 
  •  have the internal power to validate yourself 
  • have the choice to choose people who can and will humanize you instead of having unrealistic expectations of you

I know that it's not easy to let go of perfectionism. It's a habit that many of us have been conditioned to believe in and work towards. But I'm here to tell you that it's possible to live an imperfect life and enjoy it. Let's work together so you can find out how!

You’re here today because you’re tired of trying to be "perfect!"

As a child of West African Muslim immigrants, aunty, sister, friend,  integrative life coach and DEI practitioner, I’ve had to learn how to embrace the parts of my upbringing and socialization that I love while letting go of what didn't serve me.

I've been blessed to co-create a life I enjoy, but it hasn’t necessarily been an "easy"  or perfect process. I was the perfect child for my family and I assumed that position for a while... until I didn't. 
 
The journey of identifying my inner truth and learning to be confident (even while scared) in my decisions uncovered (and still does) how to prioritize my needs, values and the people I love (and who love me too). As a result, I continue to do the things I absolutely love without totally succumbing to cultural, familial or societal pressures and expectations.  I’m here to help you do the same!

Dearest,

Here's How You Can Work With Me

Work with me for three months to receive constant support, practice embodied activities, and gain resources that will guide you in letting go of various perfectionist tendencies that are holding you back. We'll examine personal and social roadblocks, co-create a commitment plan, and actually "try-on" your commitments during our 90 days together. You'll receive feedback, live practice sessions, resources, and more.

This is a great option for anyone interested in doing deeper and slower work so that every part of your body and being will realize that you don't need to be perfect in order to enjoy your life. 

90 Day Coaching Program

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I offer 90-minute release sessions for anyone who wants to explore the root causes of 1-2 perfectionist tendencies and learn embodied ways to release them on a deeper level. We'll work together to identify the perfectionist tendencies that are holding you back, explore the root of these tendencies, and develop action items from a centered place to help you let them go. 

This is great option for anyone who has already done some self-development work and is ready to take the next step in their journey to let go of perfectionism. 

90-Minute Release Session 

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Ruth Ann

Fatima is such a grounded and wise spirit. Her personal integrity and compassion manifest in her ability to both empathize with experiences I share with her, and to hold me accountable to my own growth. She is able to see “both sides” of any situation, and the nuance behind behaviors most people quickly judge. She has always gently challenged me to be the best me she knows is possible, and is patient when I have to move at my own pace. Most importantly, she leads by example, constantly pushing through barriers and creating the life she desires and knows is possible, and modeling for us what could be. I would encourage anyone who values an honest, well rounded perspective to seek her guidance and reflective tools.

I help people find the answers they need to experience the life they want. But don't just take it from me:

Adriane

The experience I had with Fatima was ENLIGHTENING, and truth be told, my first steps in healing. She listened so patiently and attentively, guiding me with breathing exercises when I started to feel like I couldn’t catch my breath telling her everything. I don’t know how to explain it but she knew what I needed at that moment. She asked thought provoking questions, all while gently pushing me to challenge my own self. She helped me recalibrate my goals, keeping in mind my circumstances. And most importantly, it was the way she made you feel validated and important. Her calm approach and steady voice is something I still remember vividly. To this day, I still hold onto the notes I made while we spoke. That conversation was no ordinary conversation, for the first time in a long time, Fatima made me feel heard.

chika

I have known Fatima personally and professionally for 5 years. In all our interactions, she proved to be emotionally intelligent and possessed an in-depth understanding of people and human emotion. Whenever I have come to her with a challenge, I’ve found her to be kind, thoughtful, and empathetic. She is open minded, an avid listener and enjoys learning, all the qualities you need in a life coach. Fatima will not hesitate to admit when she does not immediately have the solution to a problem and will go above and beyond to find answers. She never put other people’s narratives or personal experiences before mine but endeavored to tease out helpful details from past encounters that have helped me, while maintaining confidentiality. I have grown to respect her work, attention to detail and honesty and look forward to working with her again in the future. 

mariam

Fatima is the most understanding, empathetic, loving and emotionally intelligent person I know. While working with her, I always felt heard and respected. Without going into too much detail, after all that happened she still provided an open and safe space for me to talk things through! I never felt judged by her, not ONCE. Her ability to see all perspectives and provide nuanced guidance is unmatched. I have no doubt that she will be an amazing life coach to you! You’d be lucky to have her on your side.

ahmad

Fatima has been a life changer! Following her steps and advice has allowed me to love myself and be comfortable in my own skin. Fatima offers immense support! You’ll never feel a sense of judgment which in turn allows you to get everything off your chest completely.

stephanie

Fatima overall has a very warming and welcoming presence. She physically and verbally shows that she’s listening, and you FEEL that she is listening. Fatima also made me the expert on my goal by asking me what I needed, whether it be an ear or advice. She often helped me come to solutions on my own by asking follow up or leading questions that required me to do more self reflection. Not only does Fatima center me, she shares her knowledge where appropriate. Fatima does not impose her views or opinions even when asked. In times when my understanding of the world was small, I went to Fatima and she would ask me why I saw things the way I saw them and then she gave me alternate views to consider. She further gave me resources that would benefit me by just simply introducing new knowledge or furthering my understanding of a specific topic.

oyin

Fatima is the best! She is such a wise, inspirational, and uplifting woman! She really made it easy for me to feel welcomed and willing to go to her for guidance!

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